My deepest condolences to you, KatyLady.
Gary is an amazing person! His passing leaves a huge hole in the world, but that is evidence of someone who lived a meaningful life with a beautiful legacy, and a testament to the breadth and depth of the amazing love you share.
This is painful. I know you miss him dearly and how you cherish the wonderful memories of your 35+ year romance and best-friendship. You have many friends/family who love you and want to support you -- lean on us.
You are always in my prayers. God bless you, I love you. X O X O X
Katy and family,
Sincere condolences to you and your family. Gary was a great guy. I worked with him at Steele Associates. He was always so nice and kind to me. He was such a wonderful, gentle soul. Even though he has moved on he will always remain with you. Wishing you peace in the days ahead.
Katy and Claire- Know that Kerin and I pray daily for Gary and miss him tremendously, as you both do. We feel so fortunate to have been able to celebrate his birthday with him and spend time at the coast, too. Our hearts are certainly heavy with this, but we remember the many good times we all had together and celebrate his memory. To me, Gary was more than just a BIL, he was truly my brother and I loved him like one. He was always so patient with our family and was always really interested in what we were doing in our lives. I'll always remember the last time we were together and we went through his family album, which I had never seen before, and he revealed a part of himself to me I had never known about. He was truly an amazing person who left a tremendous legacy. Love to you and Claire.
Hello; I am Gary's sister Karen. Although I have been estranged from the family for decades now, God let me know that Gary had passed on when I was praying for him and his family recently, and led me to this obituary. It saddens me to learn of his death, and I am sorry that we could not have had a relationship away from the influence of our mother; I would have liked that. I am glad to hear, though, that he achieved his dreams, and had such a loving family. I only met the Kirkmires a few times, but I remember them with fondness. My condolences to Katy and Claire, and may God bless them and keep them.
Karen M. Nichols
Las Vegas, NV
Gary was a very special man.
Met him in August 2019 with his colleague, Alan Costic, president, AC + Co Architecture, in Salem, as we discussed a possible project.
Gary was quiet, thoughtful, asked good questions, and listened.
About a week later, he met a small group to view the property and discuss the vision, mission, and goals for the possible project. He walked, took notes, snapped pictures, talked with the group members, and shared several concepts.
Within two days, we had several conceptual drawings. Gary was so talented, creative, and put his heart and soul into this endeavor for many reasons, including that we'd proposed working closely with one of the Confederated Tribes in Oregon. We intended to honor their legacy throughout the process of creation, collaboration, and execution.
The project was tabled due to different factors, especially the potential partners or sponsors who were mid-year with other priorities. And then Covid-19 Pandemic spread around the world, including communities, families, and individuals in our beautiful state. It's sad idle waiting for a better time.
That time is rapidly approaching. I reached out to Alan two days ago and discussed the possibility the timing was right and we might pursue it again. Sent a message to Gary on LinkedIn this morning and copied Alan. Sent a separate email to Alan, too.
Alan responded by writing and sharing the sad news that Gary passed away last summer.
What a shock and a loss, although he's smiling and enjoying life with his family members, friends, and others in the Native American Spirit World. It's their gain and he's happy.
My condolences to his family, friends, and colleagues. May you eventually cherish eternity with him in the afterlife.